İlk Bahar: Recently I’ve found myself in a dilemma. A dilemma that had made me feel so ill. I have met someone who is a Vegan. We are very similar and we seem to get along so fine. But the only difference that we have is that he is a Vegan and I am once or twice a week meat eater. …

What I don’t like about him is the way he is going on about it. He is very clear-cut about this subject. He says he cannot kiss someone who has eaten meat, the thought will just make him feel ill, and his morals will be in the way of his love. He says he does not want me to eat meat in front of him, but he says he’ll socialize with me even if there is meat served on the table or go to family meals. …

I respect him totally, but he imposes on me what he believes. He says that he is showing me the truth to peace and love, but he is doing this by saying “You’re like the other meat eaters, you exploit animals, you’re one of those murderers and if you’re going to be with me, you’ll need to choose.” …This makes me feel so bad and horrible inside, and I ask myself, is this right what he is saying, and how he is saying it?

Jessica F: Wow. This post made me cry. I’m in a similar situation.

My husband and I have been married for six years and have three children together. He is a raw-vegan and I am a recent vegan back to vegetarian. When we met, he was just starting to become vegan and i was an omnivore. I would explore vegan food with him and keep an open mind about it and cook vegan meals for us. I always struggled with trying to go vegan. Even after we had our first two children and they were eating vegan, I still struggled. After the birth of my third child, I went vegan and remained that way for two years, until he went raw. It’s been so FREAKING difficult with him. Just as I was becoming acclimated to a new way of eating, he went and decided to eat some other way.

I found it hard to continue to eating vegan-ly since he was no longer eating the same things we once enjoyed together. I have gone back to eating dairy and eggs. I have had a piece of fish here and there. He knows this and he is very rude to me and our children when we eat dairy. He will claim that the dairy is giving our children behavioral issues. He will ask me how i like my cow puss. He knows that I struggle with this, but he is so mean about it. I don’t understand why he can’t accept me for who I am, that being vegan, vegetarian, whatever. I have never asked him to change anything about himself. It’s to the point now I would rather lie to him about what I eat than tell him the truth because he looks down his nose at me.

I don’t know what to do. Is this a salvageable relationship?